International Female Ride Day came up. We both agree it's a nice gesture to get together as women and encourage one another to ride, but I don't quite understand why we need to celebrate such an every day activity.
It seems equivalent to National Taco Day. I eat tacos almost every day simply because I love them. I don't need a special day to celebrate eating tacos.
"You ride a motorcycle? That is so badass! Girls on motorcycles are 100 times hotter than girls walking down the street! Every time! "
- my friend Robert
It's hard to explain to people that I don't ride a motorcycle because of how other people see a woman rider. I know there are women who think guys who ride are hot. I ride because I love riding. It's not as convenient as driving a car, but even in the bad weather and on the rough days, I still prefer riding.
I don't ride to look cute or hot or to be badass. Riding a motorcycle is not the most badass thing I've ever done. It is certainly not the hardest thing I've ever done.
As a child, being powerless and betrayed by my mother was hard. Losing my unborn child and my first love because of her was hard. Raising a mentally ill daughter has been terribly hard. Separating from Steve has been very, very hard. Simply surviving the storms of life has been far more badass than twisting my throttle in any rainstorm.
Riding my motorcycle is one of the best, most enjoyable things I've ever done for myself. I believe it was one of my first steps in independence. It has been a vehicle in which I've regained pieces of my true self that I seemed to have lost along the way.
For me International Female Ride Day will be simply a celebration of riding, like every other day. Every time I get on my bike I'm grateful for the opportunity to ride. It has nothing to do with being female. I'm not minimizing what it means to others. I'm simply clarifying what it means to me.
So yes, I'll be celebrating riding on IFRD because if I want to go anywhere on the last Friday in May I will be riding.