Monday, February 29, 2016

Riding Solo For Now

Stopped for a break in Gila Bend. This was the longest ride I've ever taken alone.
Be careful what you wish for because the universe might just force you into it. My New Year Resolutions were to start taking care of myself, accept gifts others give, be honest and vulnerable with my friends and to become independent.

A couple of days ago I left on a "vacation". I rode alone from our apartment in San Diego to Phoenix to stay with friends. The first few days I've spent with fellow moto-blogger Paul, Arizona Harley Dude. Today I'm heading over to Kim and Mike's house to stay a little longer. I will continue to work with Steve on our business Too Much Tina Media. He and I are still in love and still friends and business partners.

I'm riding solo because we need a break. This issue is due to rushing into a relationship so soon after we both divorced. We are two people who are in love but growing in different directions at different speeds with different goals. I would not take this "vacation" if I hadn't given it a great deal of very serious thought.

Feeling alone but not lonely, at least not yet.

I've come to love myself and it is self love which gives me the courage to be honest. And part of being honest is looking inward and knowing my own motivations. Once I recognize an issue I feel compelled to address it immediately. There was a time I saw this as a fault, but now I know that this is simply how I am hard wired.

I am an action person and because of that I can get myself into trouble. I jump too soon, make emotional decisions and cause myself and others pain. I thought about taking time apart but the permanence of leaving terrified me, stopped me in my tracks and kept me from taking action.

As I've gotten older I've managed this impulsive behavior by building a trusted support system of listening ears to bounce ideas from and get sound feedback. Others see our problems differently and often have a better perspective than we do from the inside looking out.

My niece Shelli suggested I simply take a "vacation"; to go away and come back at an appointed date. So Steve and I are now living apart.

I'm never afraid when I'm out on the road. I think that might be something that would terrify others but that's the part I love. But there are times when I'm terrified of being entirely alone. I am paralyzed thinking no one knows where I am and no one is waiting to hear from me. So this is a gutsy move for me. I am relying on my support system and selecting people to visit and check in with as I go.

Sunset just outside of Phoenix
Since I've posted on my social media about this I've had a number of friends reach out with support and love. I can't believe how many have opened their homes to me. I am humbled by the kindness and generosity of people.

When I stopped in Gila Bend at the Love's Truck Stop (I love truck stops! Everyone is going somewhere!) I dropped my ATM card. I didn't even know it until this young lady Shellsea stopped me.

"You dropped your card," she said as she tapped my shoulder.

At first I was upset with myself.

"You have no idea how screwed I would be without this! Thank you!"

After a few minutes I went back to thank her again. Her kindness filled me with gratitude and hope. Even some strangers can be caring. Allowing others to help me has always been hard, so this journey is not just on the outside, but on the inside of me as well.

Shellsea renewed my faith in others at the Loves Truck Stop

I'm considering traveling all summer long from friend to friend. Even though I rode my own motorcycle through 35 states over 50,000 miles, somehow I feel that doing it alone is so different than doing it with my husband and partner. I guess I'll find out. I'll continue to post about this difficult and possibly amazing journey.

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Friday, February 12, 2016

A Celebration For Women That Ride in Del Mar


Indian Motorcycles presented "A Celebration For Women That Ride" at IV League Flat Track in Del Mar on February 6, 2016. Sponsored by Indian Motorcycles and Law Tigers, Team Roland Sands Design hits the track on the Super Hooligan Indian Scout Sixty race bikes

“It is an honor for Indian Motorcycle to sponsor the Super Hooligan event in partnership with Roland Sands Design and the folks at the Superprestigio of the Americas,” said Steve Menneto, President of Motorcycles at Polaris Industries. “Given the incredible racing heritage of the Indian Scout in our DNA, it’s really exciting to have five amazing Roland Sands custom Indian Scouts racing. It’s going to be a great event.”

What was one event starting in Las Vegas actually turned into a tour. Future races will be held Feb. 19-21 at Mama Tried in Milwaukee, Wis., March 8 during Bike Week in Daytona, Fla., March 19 at IV Flat Track Del Mar in Del Mar, Calif., and April 8 at the Hand Built Show in Austin, TX.

Friends Jen Kelly, Kaelin Cassidy, Jordan Harvey and Taylor Carpenter were just a few of the women riders came out in force! 

Motolady Alicia Elfving doing one of the many things she loves, shooting photos of the women riders. 

Riders lined up for the All Women Riders Race, which turned out to be one of the closest races of the night! These woman are really tough and amazingly competitive. After watching them race I was filled with the desire to try it myself, but once I came to my senses I realized that wasn't happening anytime soon. 

I made a new friend in Steve who continued following me and photo bombing all of the photos I was taking. 

It was exciting to see so many women riders who attended and running into so many of my girlfriends as well. The women's riding community in San Diego is growing briskly. It is a pleasure to see so many women in this community supporting the new women riders and forming riding groups that meet and ride together often.

Ramming Speed sponsored a Bike Show awarding custom trophies made by Roland Sands Design.

AMCN's roaming road tester Paul 'steel shoe Youngy' Young getting busy on the Roland Sands built Indian Scout - Super Hooligan class flat tracker. Photo by Todd Williams courtesy of Indian Motorcycles

Photo by Todd Williams courtesy of Indian Motorcycles

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About Sash

People call me "Sash" because I'm a former beauty queen in my old home town. My father used to ride in an MC which got me interested in the culture. After my last divorce I said "goodbye" to Susie Homemaker and became the rude biker chick I always felt inside. (Read more...)